The Sissy Husband:
So you're a sissy husband, and you're not sure how to tell your wife or girlfriend.
Or perhaps you're a significant other who's just found out that you are the proud owner of a sissy husband.
Communication is key. I know, that's very simplistic and doesn't always work out as we'd hope in the real world. Sissy husbands and married crossdressers have faced divorce and shame as a result of this personal trait which they cannot change: they are a sissy, and always will be.
If you've just come out of the sissy closet - or are considering doing so, and not quite sure how to do it, just remember to be as open and forthcoming as possible when discussing your sissy tendencies. Your significant other is likely to be shocked and confused - prepare a thorough answer and explanation for her, to the best of your ability to understand your own sissy tendencies. Perhaps you can gather some reading materials, so that your partner can learn about your sissification, and your desire to be feminized and submissive.
Here are some links to articles and essays written by the wives of sissy husbands and married crossdressers:
Helping Wives: An article written to be a starting point for wives seeking to learn about and understand their sissy husbands.
The Advantages of Having a Sissy Husband: A humorous look at the benefits of having a crossdressing husband.
"My Husband Wears My Clothes": A book written by the wife of a crossdresser.
"My Husband Betty": Another recommended book written by the wife of a crossdresser
The majority of married crossdressers and sissy husbands with whom I've had occasion to speak claim that their wives do not know about their crossdressing, and that they must keep it hidden. Sissy husbands go to great lengths to hide this most essential part of themselves: rented storage spaces, hiding places in the basement or attic, even separate apartments! And of course when the hiding becomes too stressful, the purging cycle begins...and even though the sissy husband knows deep in her heart that she will buy those clothes, wigs, shoes and cosmetics again and again, the stress of hiding often becomes too much, and those treasured girlie possessions are discarded. Needless to say, this can be expensive!
Confessing to your wife or girlfriend that you are a sissy is never going to be simple. Some married crossdressers will never reach that point, and that is okay.
But living a life of secrecy, concealing your true, full self from those who love you, and whom you love, is not too easy either. So give some thought to sharing this essential part of yourself with your loved ones - and take the responsibility of preparing the educational materials - and your own thoughts and feelings - so that you can participate in helping your significant other through your transition from secret sissy to public sissy husband.
You can't force your wife or girlfriend to accept your sissy tendencies: her background, upbringing, and her own experiences will affect how open she is to the fact that you are her sissy husband. But the more information you provide for her, and the more open you are during discussions of your sissy-ness, the more likely she will be to eventually come to accept, if not embrace, your femininity.
There are a few theories as to why women have such a difficult time accepting that their husband is a sissy. Some theorize that a woman's fear of her own lesbian tendencies may make her turn away or refuse to accept her husband's feminine side. Also, we're all brought up with very strictly defined expectations of "proper" gender roles - the husband is expected to act and dress a certain way, and the wife, another. When these roles are blurred or transposed, life can get confusing. And even the most open minded of wives is going to have preconceptions of what defines "husband" - certainly your sneaking into her panty drawer and trying on her "intimates" is not among the things she was raised to expect of a husband! But this does not mean that she can't come to accept that part of you - especially with your help in educating and enlightening her to the ways of sissy husbands.
At Sissy School, we are not licensed therapist nor are we certified in any way to provide professional counselling on the subject of crossdressing and the personal issues involved. However, we all have hundreds of hours of experience talking with sissies, hearing their innermost thoughts, their concerns, their hopes to someday be able to share their sissy side with their significant other, their deep desire to find an understanding life partner.
If you'd like to schedule a chat with us to discuss these things - whether you are a sissy or someone who loves one, we would be happy to hear from you, and share with you what we have learned through our experiences as Sissy Mistresses. Please email firstname.lastname@example.org for information on scheduling a phone chat. Please also feel free to drop me an email if you just wish to share your thoughts, or ask a few questions - I don't have all the answers sought by sissy husbands and their loved ones, but I'd be happy to share what I do know. I have learned so much both in my personal life, and in my work at Sissy School, that has enlightened me to the joys and tribulations of sissy husbands, and I would love to have the opportunity to help you share in this wonderfully diverse world of sissy crossdressing that I have come to know and love.
If you are looking for information on crossdressing men, and how this issue affects relationships, see also: Crossdressing Men: Is the Crossdresser Really Powerless to Stop?
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