By Ms Dusty of Sissy School
Have you ever wondered if there was a difference between a sissy and a cross dresser? Do you just assume that all cross dressers are sissies? Some people may think there is no difference. Of course, this more than likely means they don’t empathize with sissies or cross dressers. There is a major distinction between the two. It is important to appreciate and recognize the diversity amongst our peers.
What is a sissy? First of all, a sissy is someone who identifies themselves as a sissy. They want to be feminized. Not only do they wish for their clothes to be feminine, they also want to act feminine. So, it really does depend on how they perceive themselves, or want to be perceived. I can just explain variations. Sissy is definitely not discourteous to them. In fact, they prefer to be known as a sissy. Doesn’t mean they lack self esteem in the least. Basically, they choose to be a sissy and are proud to be a sissy. Usually, they are submissive males who enjoy being passive, obedient, and feminine. Most of them revel in the cross-dressing lifestyle.
For those who practice Femdom, it can be very honorable to them, to be known as a sissy. They are keen on being subservient to their mistress. They may have a mistress who lives with them, and be very proud to obey their mistress. Being a sissy is about how they experience it on the inside. They usually know from an early age, that they are a sissy, and are not offended by the term. They may put on their frilliest pair of pink silk panties, and immediately feel sissy. But, as soon as they take off those frilly, pink, panties, the mood can change. Sissies love to be identified as sissies, and it is up to them, when and how they are identified. There are many who are married in monogamous relationships. They may like to be recognized as a sissy, because they clean house, and dress like a sissy maid.
For instance, some cross dressers may consider them a sissy and are completely fine with the term. However, it is just a fantasy for them. Maybe they don’t even act on it in their life. They could have a wife, family, job, and the whole package. They are not referred as a sissy in their everyday life. They have this fantasy of being a submissive sissy, who may take orders from a mistress. They may call a phone sex line, for a mistress, and act out their sissy desires on the phone. They long to be dominated by a strict mistress, who enjoys calling them a sissy. They may be bisexual or bicurious and just need a firm, dominant mistress to guide or train them. It could end right there in that fantasy. Once they hang up the phone, they go back to their regular life.
There isn’t really one explanation for this, which can be explained so easily. It is not easy: there are several factors that contribute to a male who likes to wear women’s clothing and lingerie and be called a sissy. Maybe they dreamed about wearing their mother or sister’s clothing when they were a child. Maybe they were teased and called a sissy growing up. There isn’t just one reason for it. The dynamics in this could go on and on, depending on whom we are talking about.
Then, you have the everyday sissies. Some may have to wear men’s clothes to work, depending on their job, but as soon as they get home, they take off their suit and prance around in their panties. They love every minute of it. They know they are a sissy; they identify themselves as a sissy. They love being a submissive little sissy; they may live with their mistress. The mistress may or may not be their wife. But, they adore their mistress. They will do anything to serve their mistress. More often than not, sissies are bisexual. Some may even prefer males over females, and vice versa. There is not a specific sexual preference for the term, sissy or cross dresser for that matter.
On the other hand, there are many cross dressers, who do not appreciate being called a sissy. It may offend or insult this cross dresser if someone calls or implies that they are a sissy. It has a negative feel to them. In this circumstance, it is probably most well know as a childish insult aimed to put down a male, who may be feminine. These cross dressers do not think of themselves as a sissy at all, nor do they feel like one. They may have a different meaning for the word, “sissy” to them it can be someone who is wimpy, who doesn’t want to get their hands dirty. These cross dressers, do not want to be known as a sissy for this reason. When they are dressed they are women. They consider themselves to be femme, but do not identify with being a sissy at all. They may consider themselves strong, independent, liberated women, who have no desire to be dominated by a mistress or any one for that matter. For this they wish to be known as strong, secure women. When they are dressed as a man, they consider themselves to be men; they look masculine, and feel masculine. That is until they put their panties on.
The moral of this story is: To each their own. Some are fine with the term, and completely ok with being considered a sissy. Who are we to judge? Today’s meaning of sissy has somehow turned into someone who enjoys humiliation/submission. Those who enjoy being a sissy, enjoy it when they are at their most girly. Other cross dressers accepts the term, but they know the term “sissy” is not for them. If one chooses to acknowledge themselves as a sissy, good for them. But, if you know a cross dresser, please do not automatically assume they are a sissy, if they don’t tell you upfront. You could insult them, hurt their feelings, and that is not right. Wait for them to tell you whether they would like to be called a sissy, or if they call themselves a sissy. Then go on…. tell them what a gorgeous sissy they are.